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Ben,

I'm with you. I had the same thing happen to me over the summer. Seems I ran into a bunch of folks who attended in '02-'03. Most were vision conflicts however. I was thinking just the other day that if we could have kept all that we've had over the past few years, we'd be well over my expectations for our growth.

Oh well, it happens. We just move on to those who really need us.

Best Wishes and Merry Christmas

i think theres a tipping poing in one's decision makign process of whether to stay leave a church- the problem is most pastors only communicate to people "that they were a meaningful part of the church and lives" after they have decided that they weren't...

Deann,

I wonder if it works both ways? Many times, people expect the pastor to be a mind reader and know that there's something amiss. As a pastor/church planter, I try my best to meet the needs of all of my congregants but I'm only one man and I have a wife and children who must come before the church.

I've been in the position Ben speaks of and its amazing to me how many people feel shut-out and leave but they never took the steps to belong in the first place or if they felt awkward about those first steps, they didn't tell me about it until after they left.

I think its proper to expect some semblance of loyalty to the church from people. They expect it from me as the pastor so why shouldn't it be reciprocal? I tell my people all the time, I don't know if I don't know! That simply means, "communicate"!

d- i posted a response, but it was a little defensive so i yanked it. I realized that you may have experienced some heartache with this... that may be assuming too much, but if so, i pray your heart can heal. thanks so much for commenting. i really love hearing from you...

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