One of the surprising things about pursuing a dream is seeing who doesn't turn out to support you.
In nearly every one of my coaching sessions with Dream Year participants, I have to warn them about failed expectations from their closest real-life friends.
Unfortunately, they're just not the ones who are going to buy your thing, fund your kickstarter, support your craft, or contribute to your cause. Sometimes they do, but most times they don't.
There is no honor in one's own country.
Isn't this the carpenter's son?
Can anything good come from Nazareth?
Aren't his brothers James, Joseph, Simon and Judas?
They don't exactly see greatness in you because they don't see greatness in themselves. You are one of them, after all.
Your attempt to do something better with your life upsets the social ecosystem that has been in place for decades. If you're not content with your circumstances, then what are you saying about theirs?
Dreaming is an indictment on the way things are.
And on the way your friends are living their lives.
"You think you're betta than me?"
This realization often leads to discouragement. You begin to wonder if they were really ever friends in the first place.
The answer is yes.
Yes, of course, they are your good friends. "But you are not doing this for them," I tell them. "You are doing this for everyone else."
Even more suprising than finding out who doesn't support you is seeing who actually does. It's often your secondary and tertiary friends who turn up to help.
They're the friends of friends. The ones orbiting your life but not necessarily in it all the time. You run into them at parties and at the grocery store and wish you could see more of them, but circumstances just haven't allowed it. They're the ones who peek at your life from behind the veil of social media. The ones who surprise with you a 'like' or a contribution from out of nowhere.
I didn't even know they LIKED me! you think.
They're far enough removed to overlook how ordinary you are, but close enough to admire what you're doing. And when it's time to make that ultimate push toward the completion of your dream, they're the ones charging the hill with you.
Later, you'll tell your real-life friends about it and hope they'll suddenly realize what they're missing. But most likely, they'll mutter a bemused "cool story, bro" and go back to keeping you grounded.
And that's okay.
Every dream requires "persons of peace" to help bring it to life. And 99.9% of the time, your real-life friends aren't the ones. You'll meet the right people.
So shake the dust.
And get outside of your own neighborhood.
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