Read in the New Yorker that dancing legend Fred Astaire shared a unlikely friendship with Michael Jackson. What's surprising is that he confided in Michael that they had one thing in common -- they both danced out of anger. It's hard to believe when you look at Astaire's films. But it confirms something...
Anger is one heck of a motivator.
Even in ministry.
Several years ago, I heard Bill Hybels say, "This young generation of pastors is so angry."
I've been researching stories of church leaders over the past year, and I've been asking one additional question out of curiosity -- what was your home like growing up?
Some of the most ambitious leaders are simply re-channeling anger. An absent or aloof dad, alcoholism in the family, death of a loved one...
It becomes the fuel for great achievement in ministry.
It's not always visible on-stage, but the staff sees it.
I agree Ben, but is scares me to death for leaders. I would argue that is a cheap source of fuel, a steroid if you will, that serves you well for 10-15 years...then if fails most and destroys most.
An implosion is coming for that leader. His motivation from 20 to 35 or so will be his undoing for many as they enter the next season.
Not only is it dangerous, at the end of the day, it's narcissistic. It can't not be. If your leadership is about you, and your motivation is the pain of your family of origin, to prove your Dad wrong, whatever...substitute whatever wound....and your entire paradigm is then about YOU and not God and His name, fame and glory.
Same is true of US Presidents if you look at their histories, relationships with Fathers, etc
Posted by: John Bryson | October 12, 2009 at 10:11 AM
A great book every pastor should read on this subject is "Overcoming the Dark Side of Leadership" by Gary McIntosh.
Posted by: Michael Cooper | October 12, 2009 at 10:13 AM
such good words. and i agree... so dangerous. Thanks John.
And I've always wanted to read that book Michael.
Posted by: Ben Arment | October 12, 2009 at 10:25 AM