I don't get asked for advice very much, but when I do, I'm always amazed at how often my tennis ball gets bounced back to me... if you know what I mean. "What do you think" actually means "Affirm this without exception." And "I'd love your feedback" actually means "I'd love to hear you admit that I've thought of everything."
We never get people's buy-in or help until we act like sponges. Doesn't mean we have to act on their advice after we walk away. But if we'd hold onto their tennis balls, rather than throw them back, we'd find more open doors in front of us. People like to feel helpful... and if they do... they will be quick to help again when we really need it.
that's really great advice. i think i'll absorb that and hang on to it. i know i need to be more receptive in my own life, or just quit asking.
Posted by: mikemonts | December 09, 2008 at 12:15 PM
God, help me be a sponge.
Posted by: Terrace Crawford | December 09, 2008 at 12:24 PM
so true. guess it means that when we ask others for their input, we actually should care about what they have to say regardless of it being what we want to hear or not.
personally, when i ask for input it's because i enjoy hearing ideas from others who are looking from a different lens than i am. collaboration leads to solutions.
Posted by: daniel d | December 09, 2008 at 01:11 PM